The question that drives my actions is, what value do I want to model to my children? I spent nineteen years modeling all the values I believed my children needed to grow up with. If I had to sum that up it would be, a mother at home meeting the needs of her children, always being available and devoted. It took me more years than I wish it had to realize the model I was showing them could have been an excuse for me not to pursue personal challenges.
Whilst I believe you can give a child no greater gift than to nurture them in their infant years, there may be a fine line between serving them and avoiding personal growth. Whilst doing a degree stretches me far beyond what I feel I am capable of, I hope that my children will see that they can reach their own potential whatever their age, circumstances or abilities.